Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Die Cry

When we lived in Africa we experienced something called a die cry.

When someone dies ululating spreads from the place of death to the loved ones and community. The ululating functions as a way to announce the death, the beginning of grieving, and an invitation to their community to grieve with them.

We really don't have that in the States. We are very stoic, reserved, and magnificent avoiders of grief. We try to rely on meaningless words about a hopeful future or a fulfilled past in order to avoid the glaring need of the moment. Just grieving, crying. Howling in the depth of the pain.

Yesterday my friend found out that the dear child in her womb has died. So I'm sending up a die cry. Please join me in weeping at her loss. There are no words. Only weeping will suffice.

Friday, June 01, 2012

Old Letters

Mom uncovered another batch of letters from Africa. Letters she wrote to her family in the States. So tonight I'm sorting them by date in order to put them into a new scrapbook.